PerrydaSavage wrote on 01/07/11 at 08:06:44:No babyhog ... neither of us has filed for divorce ... in fact the word has yet to be mentioned between us. Here in Newfoundland most divorces are "no-fault" meaning all joint properties, assets, debts and the like are split 50/50 ... if child custody and/or child support isn't an issue. A divorce can be granted and issued by either partner after a legal separation of one year, non-contestable by the other party. Up here, you cannot legally argue infidelity, irreconcilable differences or anything like that as far as I know ... the cause of the split is legally irrelevant ...
Interesting. Sounds pretty easy to get divorced. Laws here have changed some over the years. One has to file, then you get a court date to meet with a family law master, then he grants the divorce, if there are no objections, etc. Papers are filed with the court and entered into record. My divorce was fairly easy in that regard. Over in about 10 weeks. My current husband's divorce from his first wife took 18 months! Different county, so the court dates were further apart each time. And every time, she had some complaint, something else she wanted, anything to drag it out. It was a nightmare. (He thought they were divorced the first time we went out, only to find that she showed up at a court date "after" he had already talked to the judge, and she "cancelled" the proceedings) Nowdays, here, if there are children from the marriage, parenting courses are mandatory and required by the state. I think marriage counseling may be mandatory before someone can file too, but I'm not positive of that.
Anyway, how do you determine the "legal seperation of one year"? Is there a paper to document when that is? Or do you use the date that you last lived together? February isn't far away. At that point are you just legally divorced without any court documents? Or will she have to go to someone and have it court-ordered? Maybe you need to ask her about it. You need to open some dialogue with her. Good or bad, you need the outcome... me thinks. Hang in there buddy.