Whoa there. Wait a second -- come back!
Seems to me what Greg was trying to do was a sort of boot camp motivational thing. (Greg, forgive me if I've misinterpreted.) Sort of like, "Okay, shut up and get back on that *%$!ing bike!" The idea, I guess, being to shock the fear out of you and make you... well, make you get back on that %#@!ing bike. Tough love, as it were.
Of course, that approach isn't always effective -- the person using it risks making the person on the receiving end feel attacked. It depends on the frame of mind of the person who's asking to be motivated. I think I get what he was trying to say, but I can also understand why you wouldn't want to hear it quite that way.
I'll admit, though, that saying, "right, get back on the $#@!ing bike" might be a good idea. A while back, I went over when I botched a U-turn in a cul-de-sac. I grazed the curb, and down went the bike, and me. Embarrassing and unnerving. I shut off the engine, stepped away from the bike and stood there stunned, thinking, "Uh... what do I do now?"
Then I picked it up, and checked myself and the bike for damage -- no real damage to the bike, just a slightly bloodied elbow for me, but a lot of damage to my confidence. I got back on, started it back up, and went right ahead and... sat there. I thought about calling my husband to ride it back to the house for me -- hey, it was late, I was going to head home anyway.
Then I thought, "Just
ride the %$#!ing thing." Started riding, turned around, came back to the cul-de-sac, and did the freakin' U-turn
again. And again, and again. Decided I wasn't going to end the ride with a mistake -- I would end it with
overcoming the mistake. I wasn't going to go home all shaken and tense. Instead, I was able to go home, smile, hold up my elbow, and proudly say to my husband, "Hey, look, my first road rash!"
I think that's the toughness Greg's talking about. Obviously your story is different in that more damage was done. But you sound like you really want to ride again, so you've already got in you the toughness Greg was trying to bring out.
Ya know what? Even if it's just to mess with the friction zone a little bit or maybe do a little power walking in first gear, try taking a small first step towards conquering the fear. So just say, "$#@! it,
I'm getting the $#@! back on." 8)
(How's that, ladies? A long post, now with new and improved cartoon profanity!)