justin_o_guy2 wrote on 07/08/17 at 11:15:22:Did you see that mess?
Don't lay it on me.
Not trying to lay it on you....
If you take it personally, it's on you, not me.
That is the crux of this post.
Take the question, issue, at face value, address it accordingly, yes, or no, and explain it as such, not defer, or blame, deflect, or games of words.
Like "I don't recall" means the issue was of no significanse, I can't remember.
That is neither a yes, or a no.
Yet, the question of actions IS significant, or it would not be asked.
Then, if you look at the, " I don't recall" replies, and it is used on questions of significance, that could prove the person did in fact commit the act in question, if it was answered with total recall, one could then rightfully assume a pattern of dishonesty, or avoidance, as they only forget the truth when it can hurt them.
You see how we can be guilty of the same exercise too, if we use anything else but straight forward truth in our conversations with others?