The mind always wants to make something of what is observed. The I claims that it knows.
But the I is not real. It is a cluster of feelings and thoughts. It does not exist, it is only an electrical current in your body.
It claims things and rejects things.
Everyone looks at and examines the observed "reality". But no one looks at what that I actually is.
And so we remain trapped in an identity, with all its consequences.

I'm not saying that feelings don't exist, I'm saying that they're not real.
Of course you have thoughts and feelings, I'm saying that you are not your thoughts and feelings.


When someone becomes aware of that, it's a very subtle shift from being identified with feelings and thoughts to witnessing consciousness.
And it's not difficult at all.

Being identified is difficult. Because then you're right or left and you have conflicts, you have an opinion about everything, etc. etc. etc. etc.

They are not yours, they are largely collective and come from your upbringing and previous experiences and they are also culturally determined.

But you experience them and you are responsible for them. You can never blame the other for your feelings.

They are certainly not a good foundation to build something on. I am curious what you mean by that exactly.