Eegore wrote on 04/23/19 at 12:17:54:"As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him."
This is my general philosophy. When I stopped being a jerk I met fewer jerks in the world, when I stopped wanting someone else to change my environment my environment was better.
Indeed......
Now flip it 180 degrees.
Misery loves company.
You tell a kid its not fair, they believe it, and give up.
Thinking you just helped the kid get over a rough spot, is wrong, thinking you were caring and empathetic .....
What you did in effect, was to deny them the belief that they can indeed overcome, by hard work, and keeping to it (whatever it may be).
You also now removed the opportunity for them to find their self worth, by succeeding......
We have seen this played out time and time again, in our political and social beliefs and promotions, resulting in failures, and dependencies, of those we thought we were helping.