“We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.” – Mahatma Gandhi

It seems we have seen lots of energy directed at blaming others, lately, on this board.
We have seen calls to raise the bar.
We have seen replies of, "Not until others do it first"
Or, "Its not me, I am only pointing out their hypocrisy...."
And so on.....

Old Okie say'n.....You can catch more flys with honey, than you can with vinegar....

If we want a better time on this site, above you find the answer, to how.
Why, because.....

1. It stops us from judging others;
2. It replaces complaining about others with  reflection on self;
3. It stirs us into taking action within the only thing in the world over
which we have any control: ourselves.

Peace all.....make it a great day, you can you know  

Eegore wrote on 04/23/19 at 12:17:54:


Indeed......
Now flip it 180 degrees.
Misery loves company.  

You tell a kid its not fair, they believe it, and give up.
Thinking you just helped the kid get over a rough spot, is wrong, thinking you were caring and empathetic .....

What you did in effect, was to deny them the belief that they can indeed overcome, by hard work, and keeping to it (whatever it may be).
You also now removed the opportunity for them to find their self worth, by succeeding......
We have seen this played out time and time again, in our political and social beliefs and promotions, resulting in failures, and dependencies, of those we thought we were helping.

"Because I will not agree with what I know is Bullshit. "

 Why would you?

 Nobody is asking you to "agree".  Why would you even think that?

 I for one am not even asking you to be civil.  How you speak to us is up to you, although there are some that would prefer adult conversation over name-calling.  

 Bottom line is if I don't act like a jerk all day I don't get treated like a jerk all day.  Nobody has to agree with anything I say for that to be true.

"Not being a jerk helps, but it's not a shield from jerks."

 I agree.  But I am treated like a jerk the more I act like one.  

 To clarify:  When I indicated "fewer" jerks I mean a reduction but not an entire elimination of jerk interaction.  I am specifically saying that when I act like a jerk people respond to me as if I am a jerk.  

 I will always run into jerks, but I will run into less if I am not being a jerk first.  This forum is an example, people claim they will be civil as long as someone else is civil first.

justin_o_guy2 wrote on 04/24/19 at 03:21:49:


Jog, you want to try and elaborate on this a wee bit?
Maybe give a example of what you mean......

I am thinking it might be better to turn the other cheek, with the hope of realization might settle upon the one who is being overtly aggressive, etc.

Thank you.....