Having just celebrated 38 years with my bride, I can share with you one thought that has really helped in overcoming the rough spots.....

And that would be learning how to communicate.

Even though women ALWAYS think they are right, in any er, discussion of disagreement  
You must understand that right, or wrong, is nothing more than a "want" to any dialogue of opposing views/beliefs.

If....that is your sole purpose, you will fail miserably in a relationship, and I dare say, life in general.

Trying to understand any opposing views/beliefs is paramount, its the wisdom behind the adage "Walk a mile in another mans shoes......"

If you find confrontation with dialogue troubling.....
If you find it brings anger, upheaval, distraught thought, resentment, etc, then you ARE aware that YOU are the one who is INVITING those emotions into your life......
NOT, your partner, or life, itself.
No one can force that upon you, you have to WILLINGLY accept those emotions into your own head.

Yeah, easier said than done, but doable, with certain understandings.

Don't take things personal.
Don't make assumptions.
Be impeccable with spoken words/speech.

And finally, always try/do your best......
Which, is a always changing scenario based on how we are presently living/thinking about circumstance and implementing the 3 listed tools above.

And with a partner, one more thing, do NOT let the sun set on your anger......
If you can't muster the ability and strength to abide by this one thing, then I suggest the real issue resides in YOU, and your NEED to be RIGHT....
Which is a self worth and inferiority issue that only YOU can absolve through being honest with self.....

So, that is about it, other than just always be right  

PEACE DUDES.......class over  

I like......understand to be understood.

It is the meaning behind the metaphor of walking in another shoes.....

I will use a topical phrase to how folks do not read and grasp the intent of a given sentence.

Black lives matter

Its not a question, its a declaration, with only one intent.
It is not a challenge to other races, saying Black lives matter more than their collective race(s).

But we have seen how folks have read into it more than what the sentence reveals.
Why they do this, I would guess the reasons many......

Now take MAGA.......

It does not say, make more White old men in power......sorry Joe and Bernie  

Its intent is to the understanding of a time when the middle-class was strong, vibrant, and accessible via a strong economy, growing, etc....

Of course it wasn't the same access to all, that is not the intent of the phrase, that is trying to extend its meaning beyond its intentions.

I think in your "understand to be understood" it is paramount to clarify intentions, if we are to understand.
Once we reach that point of communication, then we can offer constructive dialogue......

Would you agree with that assessment?

I mean how can you argue a point, if you can't agree what the argument is about?

Eegore wrote on 04/12/19 at 10:07:46:



Perfect