raydawg
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We use to have hobos, they were rare, pretty much harmless, most appeared as a free spirit, that just couldn't be tamed, they wandered, in a romantic way....
What has changed?
I believe, and I will use the African American, as a example, as to what happens when the goverment tries to help by lowering the bar of expectations, or even worse, enabling.
It tore the Black family apart, without achieving it means. By enabling it is saying, you can't, on your own, and you must rely on me. That might not have been its intentions, however, it is the resulting.
We thought keeping score might hurt little kids, playing games, we promoted that mindset, and in effect, rendered sports moot at teaching kids the more important element about life, good sportsmanship.
We promoted out-based education on results, not on set expectations, that provided the necessities children need, to carry them into a productive and competitive adult life.
We did all of this to make OUR job, our responsibility to ensure we pass on the wherewithal the future generations would need to be self sustaining, self assured, self reliant. When armed with those traits and characteristic, they can then help those who can't help themselves, willingly, and gain the self respect, that only they can give themselves, for doing the right thing.....
We did it to make our lives easier, we were selfish, self absorbed, and opened the door to failure..... to them, and to society.
You can't kill the human spirit, our very soul, that each one has uniquely to themselves. With us not teaching our children they need to find it by honest work, habits, behavior, we let them off the "hook" and they now search through drugs, delusion, and other self destructing and self demeaning avenues, to find the "why, what, am I" in life.
We need to get back to what worked, teaching them what they NEED TO KNOW, and telling our children NO, and sticking to it, YES, YES, YES....it can and is hard, but its part of the process that benefits them when they will need it most.
Finally, and this can not be argued, actions have consequences, always have, always real, LIFE is not a video game, OR a reality TV show, or about feeling good all the time. Adversity strengthens us, when we face it head on, accepting it as a opportunity, not a excuse, to fail....bottom of the ninth, 2 outs, two strikes, bases loaded, give it your best, and accept the outcome, not on the error you made, that allowed them to take the lead......
We need to elect politicians, and listen to social leaders, who will make getting back to the basics, their priority...fixating on obscure, abstract, possible problems, is avoiding the real problem, we are not loving our kids, by being the parent, disciplinarians, teachers, but opt to be a friend, instead...enablers. Once we fix this, we can tackle the other issues. PEACE!
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