Check out some of the backpacker suppliers. They have all kinds of trick, compact, lightweight stuff.
As for cooking, I'm going camping to relax, not cook. You can cook a lot on a stick with a little imagination, and it's relaxing sitting around the campfire shooting the breeze with your buddies while everyone cooks their own food. I do, however, bring my camping coffee pot.
When it's warm, I don't use a tent. I tie a small tarp from the trees and set up a cot under it. Much more comfortable than lying on the ground.
Hope ya have a good time.