Stupid is as stupid does......
If you just give them rope, or shovel, and get out of their way, instead of arguing, folk will come to see they have no clothes.
I know this as fact, in my own life experience.
My wife pointed out, argued, etc, how my drinking was affecting our family.
I turned the truth against her, or so I reasoned.
I justified my drinking, even to the point of saying I know I have an issue, but back off, you are not helping, but hindering it.....
I will deal with it on my own accord.
Boy, did I feel empowered.
I kept selfishly doing what I wanted to do, and I minimized her, even to the point of blaming part of my reason to drink, on her.
Well, I pretended I had it under control, etc, lying.
She walked in to the garage one day and caught me red handed putting a bottle of booze to my lips....
Ok beetch, give it to me, haven't you learned I will out argue you?
She said nothing.
The look in her eyes said more than anything she could have verbalized.
WTF, I wanted an argument.
I wanted to defend myself.
I wanted..........
I was nekked.
I had no one to blame my lies on.
The truth stared right into my eyes....
It sank into my soul.
The next day I went to rehab.
I wish I could say I was so wise in going, but that would be a lie too.
I thought, HA....
I will try 30 days of this BS and then come home and use it against you, so I can still do what I want.
However, a few days later, all that changed, thank God