Webby, me thinks, you thinks, too much.... about what you thinks.
Let me try to plain it dis ways din. ( I blackified myself )
You hold your ideas dearly, as I believe we all do. They ( ideas/beliefs) are made up through indoctrination.
We travel through our lives daily with those teachings "interpreting" what is all about us.
Our thoughts/thinking is biased and prejudiced, our actions to the things around us, tainted.
The trick is to realize that, and try to view things from a different perspective, not easy, as we have to be willing to admit to our inner self the possibility of error, which can make us feel inferior, etc.
Let me give you a personal example of how I was able to use this technique on myself, maybe this will help explain my point.
I had a drinking problem for many years.
As so often accompanied with drinking, the mind builds a defense around our activity.
I won't extend the explanation into the why's and how's, as it is not really relevant to the matter at hand.
I was able to abstain from drinking with much help. Again, I don't need to elaborate on this either.
With sobriety my "way of life" now, that would be my thinking and believing, I felt empowered over the situations that use to "cause" me to drink.
Also, I felt more wiser ( I hesitate using this word, for it does not actively describe my exact thoughts ) over those who struggle with alcohol.
I could tell them from firsthand knowledge of their plight, and where it will lead them, if they don't heed my advice ( solicited & casual ).
Well for many years, and still does, my wife would often ask me if I mind that she has a drink.....
My first thought, and I have used it verbally, was to reply, "I have been sober well over a decade, why should I mind."
As you can see I acted out of defense, as I perceived her question was based upon her "perception" that I was weak, that I could be tempted by the actions of others, to once again drink and visit with all its assorted baggage....again.
Not until I looked differently at the question, did I see her motivation based on her perception, that showed how wrongly I was off in thinking I heard what I thought I had heard ( what did I just say? ).
Her question was based in love and caring for me, not a challenge to my "wiser" I got booze licked mentality that I credit myself with.
It is hard for her to see/understand my bravado at having overcome drink, as she saw too many years ( prejudiced ) of its destruction on us., that is her indoctrination....
If I am to navigate life in a peaceful manner now, I have to try and understand what the other person is saying, NOT, what I thought I heard, and hopefully, I can reply and act, accordingly.
Peace is the goal of all mankind, of that I am certain, it only makes sense....
We just need to recognize it