Make sure that rod is seated all the way, when we put in the new tensioner on my bike it did not fully seat into the clutch.

Also, dare I ask, what oil are you using now?

Well she's up and running. I put 50 miles on today and it was all good. I put a couple on 2 nights ago after I got it running and came home to change the oil and filter for any clutch residue. There was some black goo on the filter. I ended up flipping the wave washer and installing the longer 46mm rod. It put me at the lower end on the index but within specs. When I started it and tried to put in into gear it did grind again. I thought I'm just going to give it a try and jammed it into gear. To my surprise once it got it it didn't learch forward and did n't grind anymore. So if anyone else rebuilds a clutch it may do the same until you get it lined up and into gear. It felt similar last week so I'm not sure if it was the wave or not but as long as it's running I'm happy.