Face ... I too was married to a wonderful woman for 23 of the 25 years we were together ... then out of the blue, back in 2010, she tells me it's over ... 4 months later I find out she had been having an affair with an old childhood friend she had become reaquainted with on F.B. ... we've been divorced since 2011 and I personally have found being single at my age (currently early 50's) to be difficult. Met a gal last year with whom I had a 3 month relationship ... beautiful, smart and a motorcyclist ... she literally threw herself at me, claimed I was good for her soul, the most decent man she had ever met, etc. etc., only to run off with a Biker who hit on her one day while she was stopped at a red light ... prolly just as well ... buddy is a wealthy contractor who has way more to offer her than me ... no way I could compete with that ...
Have tried online dating, but have not had much success with it ... a handful of coffee dates ... seems most gals who find themselves single in their 40's are looking to "trade up" and though I'm a reasonably attractive guy, with a good career and no issues with anger, drugs, or booze, I am pretty laid back and unasuming ... I don't live a flashy, materialistic lifestyle ... seems like that ain't enough now-a-days though ...

Prayer changes things.  Those words are so true in my situation.  Not my prayers.....The ex's.  I am about as non-religious as they come, but the ex....she was Mormon. Never really devoutly so until the last couple of years. She prayed about a lot of things when her work/family/health began to have issues. Apparently the "Lord" told her she needed to go back to church and get sealed in the temple. (that's a temple marriage for those that don't know) That was obviously not gonna happen with me, and the rest is history.

So at least for now, I'm a little soured on the prayer thing.

Forget about the "trading up" type, be patient and wait for those looking for a real relationship based on the heart, not the bank account.  If you have a good heart then that will attract someone else with the same.
If you really do want another relationship, a GOOD one, then pray about it.  Prayer changes things.

LANCER wrote on 08/25/13 at 05:05:23:


I think I have a good heart Lancer ... I ain't perfect, but I always try and do the right thing ... as for the prayer thing, I'm not a religious person, but I do believe in a higher power ... I'd like to believe that prayer changes things, but am not sure ... maybe I should try it ... I've nothing to loose ... thanks for the advice.

BTW, loneliness is THE hardest thing I've ever had to deal with in my life ... I know, compared to some things that others have to deal with in their lives it might not seem all that imortant, but loneliness has taken a toll on me these 3 1/2 years ... the one thing I want most in this world, to share the special moments of life with someone special, seems to be the hardest thing of all to get ....

Just keep trying Perry ... You could always move down here. Got to be more choices than in eastern Canuckistan...

There are ten available women for every nine available men in both St. John’s, Newfoundland and Saint John, New Brunswick.