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Message started by webhead on 05/17/11 at 19:48:17

Title: Why I'm here?
Post by webhead on 05/17/11 at 19:48:17

Well the obvious reason is for the bike.

I was asked by another member about my tag line. "Find A Cure For Breast Cancer, NOW!" He said, If I wanted to to, to tell my story here.

My wife of 21 years past away from breast cancer 2 years ago at the age of 39. We have a 6 year old daughter. We met at the age of 18 and lived a great life. We were both very successful. Had lots of friends and came from large families. My wife always said,"What we didn't have in money we had in friends and family."

We had the storybook wedding. It was one of the greatest moments in our lives to be married. We were married in 1997. She was so beautiful that day.

The next greatest moment is when my wife, Paula, gave birth to our our daughter Alex. She was the picture perfect mother in every way.

In December of 2007 we were talking about having another child. We both grew up having brothers and sister and we didn't want Alexandra to be alone. Paula went for a mammogram as a precaution and it came out clear.

3 weeks later in January, Paula felt a small lump in her breast. She went to the doctor and they diagnosed it as a small infection. 2 days later it grew to the size of a grape. 7 days later it grew to the size of a baseball. She went for a biopsy. 2 weeks had passed and it was the size of a honeydew.

We saw the doctor. We knew what we were facing but the what caught us off guard was how long,........2 months.

My wife fought for a year and a half. Within that short time frame she inspired everyone around us and everyone she met. She kept her head up high and fought with every fiber in her being. She lived the last 2 months in 2 hospitals. She was in the hospital for her birthday, our 12th wedding anniversary, our 21 year anniversary of just being together, our daughters 4th birthday and mothers day.

She passed away 2 days after mothers day of that year. I tell everyone,"She didn't die, she just brought the fight to another level."

As far as the other reason me being here? I promised Paula that I would tell everyone our story when I can. It is one of the many promises that I hold closest to me.

Thanks everyone for reading and be safe.

Keith

"Live, Love & Laugh Often." -Paula J Lynch

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Post by webhead on 05/17/11 at 20:01:13

I just realized I put this in the wrong area. Sorry about that.

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Post by KristenAnn on 05/17/11 at 20:01:41

Thankyou so much for sharing your story. It is very touching and brought a tear to my eye. I am glad that you had found great love joy and happiness in your life. Your wife sounds like she was anamazing woman and you are wonderful husband and father.

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Post by Boule’tard on 05/17/11 at 20:14:36

Welcome Kieth,
Yes, thanks for sharing your wife's story and I am sure she'd be proud.

This is a perfectly fine place to post it.. don't worry, nobody cares about the "introduce yourself here" stuff. The story will get more views and comments here anyway.

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Post by webhead on 05/17/11 at 20:18:48

Thanks to both of you and yes, she is an amazing woman.

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Post by John_D FSO on 05/17/11 at 21:46:47

Welcome, and thank you for the touching story.

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Post by verslagen1 on 05/17/11 at 22:09:57

You are new here so you might not have met Skat, a long time member we haven't heard from lately and are concerned about.

http://suzukisavage.com/cgi-bin/YaBB.pl?num=1302966242

So we understand your plight and welcome you heartily.

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Post by Serowbot on 05/17/11 at 23:07:29

We got a lot of pink ribbons on our bikes... (...homophobia be d@mned)... :-?...

You are among friends here. Hope you enjoy the site and your bike.

Peace,
Serow ;)...

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Post by PerrydaSavage on 05/18/11 at 00:13:39

Welcome aboard Keith ... you are indeed a fortunate man to have shared your life with such a wonderful woman ... your cause is near and dear to many in the motorcycling community up here too, which my friends and I try to support every year by participating in "Road Queen's Ride for the Cure", a local Breast Cancer Support Charity M/C Ride.

God Bless

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Post by bluedad on 05/18/11 at 03:36:25

Touching story, Webhead..all the best to you and Alex.

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Post by webhead on 05/18/11 at 04:03:31

Thanks everyone. I actually have pink on my other 2 vehicles. I posted a small gallery so you can see what my wife looked like the year before she was sick and a pic of myself and my daughter. Also a pic of the things on my cars. We were big sports fans. My wife's nickname was "Boody". A name our mutual best friend gave her when we were dating and it just stuck.

http://gallery.me.com/thelynchfamily/100031

I ordered pink ribbons for the shield I just ordered and a new license plate frame similar to the one on my car.

Skat is in my thoughts. This disease tears apart everyone around you. I try to help people now by giving them awareness and to help them prepare for the "what if's" as my wife would say. We had hope but my wife was very cautious and wanted me to be prepared in case it came to this. She was a very smart person and left a very large hole in my life.

Thanks everyone

Keith

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Post by prechermike on 05/18/11 at 04:50:00

It is amazing the things that bring us together.

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Post by kimchris1 on 05/18/11 at 06:03:10

Welcome to the Family..
Glad you found us.

Yes we have added Pink
to our bikes recently.
This is for one of our
gal riders, Skatnbnc.
aka, Skat or Skatergirl.
This is to show her we
support her as well as
all the other women that
are going thru, have gone
thru, won as well as loss
the fight.
Yes We definetly need
a cure NOW.. kim

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Post by weracerc on 05/18/11 at 06:09:59

Hi and welcome to the group.

Chip Smith
Greensboro, NC

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Post by OE on 05/18/11 at 06:19:29

Welcome to the forum. My thouhts are with you, your daughter and your wife.

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Post by babyhog on 05/18/11 at 08:18:56

Welcome Keith. Hope you stick with us, you sound like a great guy. I'm sorry for your loss. Take care of that little girl and make Paula proud. (I feel sure you already do that)

My mother is a 6+ year breast cancer survivor after single mastectomy. I'm almost 46, so I get more nervous every year. I appreciate every person who fights for a cure. I will most likely need it some day.

In honor of your wife and my mother (and for myself as well) I'm adding your tag line to mine too. Hope you don't mind....

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Post by webhead on 05/18/11 at 09:32:25

Babyhog,

You honor my wife and my family by doing that. It's a very nice gesture to do that for someone you just met. Thank you.

Thank you everyone for the kind words. I try to tell everyone our story. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our lives we forget to see what's outside our bubble. I saw things in b & w. My wife taught me to see things in color.

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Post by mick on 05/18/11 at 11:37:24

welcome mate, a touching story indeed,I wish you and your daughter a wonderful live.Remember you are living for your daughter now,so ride safe .

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Post by webhead on 05/18/11 at 20:55:55

Thanks Mick. I know to be safe but it's the other people you have to watch out for too.

Babyhog,

Your mom is a strong woman. I've met many survivors during my travels helping people and I hold them to the highest respect. They got to a point I wish my wife got to. When you get to that point all you can do is hope.

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Post by photojoe on 05/19/11 at 08:18:39

Welcome Brother.

I don't feel a lot of hatred for most things in this world, but your license plate pretty much sums up how I feel about Cancer. This past Monday made it 2 years since it got my Father. Breast Cancer is making it's way through my circles also. The other photog at my job is battling it now. She found out a few weeks ago and is going through treatment now. Hate what it does to good people. Sorry for your loss.

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Post by FlybysBlvd on 05/19/11 at 09:09:03

[smiley=cry.gif] I am so sorry for your loss, I to have lost many a friend and family member to cancer, breast or otherwise. May 14th was an awsome day here in Columbus, one company "The Limited" had over 7000 of thier employees, etc doing the walk, what an awesome sight. Welcome to the group! Paula is beautiful, thanks for the pictures.
Con

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Post by Southpaw on 05/19/11 at 11:42:29

Welcome aboard and thanks for sharing. There are many of us around this site with family fighting various cancers. It's time we shut the door on these diseases and make them a part of our past! Settle in and enjoy the site.

Ride safe,

Dan

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Post by bill67 on 05/19/11 at 12:33:45

My wife died 24 years ago with colon cancer,By what I have read most internal cancers have only seen a 5% better cure rate in the last 50 years.The doctors make a lot of money on cancer patients so anytime you give money to any cancer fund you are only giving money to the doctors. The night my wife died I talked to a nurse who had been their 20 years,She said if she got cancer she wouldn't take chemo at all seeing all the people that died there.If I get cancer tomorrow I wouldn't take it either.Those treatments just burn up your insides.My wife lived a year and a half after they found the cancer.First doctor said it wasn't cancer second doctor said it was stomach ulcers,Both Indian doctors, even though they were wrong they both got their money.

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Post by EJID on 05/19/11 at 13:17:28

My wife was diagnosed with thyroid cancer in 2005, had a total thyroidectomy at that time. 2 months later she had to take radioactive iodine to kill off the remaining thyroid cells / cancer cells. March 2011 she had her last radioactive iodine dose to verify that all the cancer is gone and it came back clear. According to her medical records she is considered "cured" :) Wish your outcome could have been that good, but looks like you are doing as well as possible since everything has happened.

BTW, tomorrow is our local "Paint the town Purple" fundraiser event for the Relay for Life. Wife and I have been active supporters since that first diagnosis and try to do anything we can to help others out.

Take Care :)

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Post by kimchris1 on 05/19/11 at 19:24:08

Cancer seems to have touched all our
families at some point in time.
I will not say whether I will or not
have Chemo should the cancer
cells in my body ever become active.
Chemo does destroy some good as
well as bad cells. It also has worked
and helped people to survive.

Webhead, your daughter is just as beautiful
as your wife. Thank you for sharing her
story and pics.
It also is a reminder for us to live each day
to our fullest.
We may not be here tomorrow, yet our good
will be here to remind people of what good
does and how it looks.. :) kim

Title: Re: Why I'm here?
Post by webhead on 05/19/11 at 21:31:07

Yes Kim. I try to live every day and to enjoy life as much as I can. That's one of the reasons why I got the bike. I've seen the things that the group put in the previous posts. Having our hope ripped away from us. Doctors whom think they are gods. The brutal things they did to my wife's body. The chemicals, the surgeries the medications. In they end, they gave up on her. They had to call security from preventing me from killing her doctor. In the end it's like what my wife said. It's all about the money. They looked at her as a big money bag and sucked her dry. I didn't give up on her until that final day. When I saw she suffered enough and I couldn't help her anymore. I told her she had to go. I gave her permission to leave. And she did.

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Post by drharveys on 05/20/11 at 04:28:55

Welcome.

Ride, laugh, love.

(Hey, it's a simple philosophy, but it works for me.)

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Post by Sunchasers on 05/20/11 at 08:17:17

Welcome to the forum Keith! I have to say that of all the forums and websites I have found over the decades, this one beats them all hands down! As a "newbie" here, I have found the members to be genuine, friendly, caring, and very helpful.

This terrible disease affects a lot of people either directly or indirectly and needs to be extinguished. My younger sister (age 48) was just recently diagnosed with breast cancer and is currently undergoing chemo-therapy treatments to be followed by radiation therapy. She has strong faith and conviction, but a long road ahead. Our whole family has been and will continually be there for her.

God bless you and your family,

Doug
Colorado

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Post by webhead on 05/20/11 at 09:56:53

23352F263531223E34470 wrote:

Welcome.

Ride, laugh, love.

(Hey, it's a simple philosophy, but it works for me.)

It's funny you say that. My wife always said live, love and laugh often. I have it on the back of my truck.

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Post by webhead on 05/20/11 at 09:58:54

Doug,

I hope for the best. Just being there for her is enough and holding her hand and making her smile. It's the little things you become more appreciative of.